Members' page

Below you can find out how to help with our running costs, read about our private Facebook group and see what books are in our library.


As well as our monthly meetups, we keep the discussion going in between with our private Discord group. We try to keep the membership just to people who have been to meetups, and close friends living in Yorkshire who are likely to come to meetups in the future.

Discord is a community-oriented chat software that can be installed on your computer or mobile, but is also available through any web browser.

We will share an invite link to the Discord group in each of our support & community events.

If you've been to a meetup in the past and you would like an invite link at any time, please get in touch.

Facebook: no more

We used to have a private group on Facebook. However, the number of members who do not have Facebook accounts made this gradually feel rather exclusionary. We now exclusively meet on Discord between events.

O.P.E.N Library

We have a free lending library of books and resources to help with polyamory or relationships in general. You can borrow a book for up to a year as long as we know how to get hold of you to get it back!

Many of the books have been donated - the presence of a book in our library does not mean we necessarily endorse its contents. Clicking on any book cover below will take you to reviews on Goodreads.

See below for a list of the books that are currently in our library.

We're also big fans of the work of Meg-John Barker, and many of their zines are available free on their website. Particularly relevant to this group are Queer Relationships and Consent Checklist.